Why Kissing is Enough

I’ve been doing a lot of kissing since I made the move to New York, and I want to tell you why I think it’s underrated.

I don’t believe there’s much better in life than meeting a smoking hot stranger in a bar who you’re totally into, realizing that they’re into you too, and letting the chemistry unfold until one of you takes the plunge to go in for the first kiss.

Red Lips Kissing

Both parties tend to hold back in those first few seconds of kissing, inquisitively testing the waters. Then suddenly, if deemed ‘all clear’, the kiss becomes deeper, urgent and passionately delicious, until you completely lose yourself in it.

Man I love kissing. It promises so much: things could go anywhere from a first kiss, or things could go nowhere, but who cares because you’re experiencing life altering lip action.

The other great thing about kissing is that it’s so low risk. Little can go wrong with a kiss. It’s like a ‘try before you buy’. Worst case scenario, you encounter a slobbery mess, a washing machine tongue, or a repellent taste, and you do a runner quicker than you can say ‘french kiss’.

The potential downside in sex is so much more severe. Nine out of ten times, first time sex will not be as good as a kiss. They may not look as pleasing as you envisaged naked. Their penis could be weird in shape or smell (or both if you’re really unlucky).

They could attack your clit like they’re scrubbing a frying pan, if they can find it in the first place. It’s probable that they will finish in minutes, or seconds, and that you won’t.

You might go back to their place, only to discover it’s a total dump and they live like a pig, but you decide that you’re there now so may as well have sex anyway, in their stained, slightly damp bed sheets. We’ve all been there.

There’s also the chance that they might stay over which guarantees a shit night’s sleep. Or worse, you pass out at theirs and awake with dead rat breath, a pounding hangover, and no idea where your underwear is or where, in fact, you are.

The chances of other intoxicated, awkward or unexpected mishaps are high. And I haven’t even mentioned STDs yet.

Here are my top 10 examples, from personal experience, of when adopting a ‘kissing only’ approach is definitely the way to go:

1. When you’re not sure which guy to go home with yet
2. When you’re making them wait
3. When you don’t fully trust them
4. When on your period, or experiencing sub-optimal activity in your underpants
5. When they’re a friend of your ex
6. When you’re keen to get back to girl-time with your friends
7. When you’re curious if this friendship could be something more
8. When you had sex with someone else the night before
9. When doing some same sex experimentation
10. When you want something to look forward to next time

So get those lips moving.

Happy kissing. Mwah x


  1. Anonymous
    March 19, 2017 / 6:09 pm

    This is a good one!!!!!!!!!

    • shemadethemove
      March 21, 2017 / 1:41 am

      I’m glad you think so! 🙂

  2. Rom
    March 20, 2017 / 4:30 pm

    Your shameless plug in nymag.com worked. Great blog! As a fellow tinder/bumble enthusiast I often wonder what a woman’s perception is after a date. I’m fascinated at your detailed observations as I do the same (the pointy leather shoes is my favorite) on every date. Keep the stories coming. Maybe one day we’ll unknowingly swipe right for each other and go on a date, and I’ll know if my shoe choice was appropriate. Cheers!

    • shemadethemove
      March 21, 2017 / 1:46 am

      Rom I so so appreciate this lovely comment! Keep up the good work on the apps. Did you find my guide to internet dating post – would love to get your thoughts on it! It’s at http://www.shemadethemove.com/my-guide-to-internet-dating/. And who knows, maybe our dating destinies will cross at some point…

  3. Anonymous
    September 2, 2017 / 8:28 pm

    Make me immortal with a kiss

    • shemadethemove
      September 4, 2017 / 9:20 pm

      Hi Anonymous! Sending a big one your way X 😉

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